Essential Resources for Parents, Educators, Coaches, and Conscientious Citizens

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Shane’s Presentations

Smartphones and Social Media

The Harm Of Bad Therapy, Gentle Parenting, and Bulldozer Parenting

The Benefits of Family Dinners

There is a reason every great culture has ritualized and even sacralized community meals.

  • Children who do not dine with their parents at least twice a week are more likely to be overweight, less likely to eat vegetables, and more likely to be truant at school.

  • According to Harvard professor Anne Fishel, “dinner time conversation boosts vocabulary more than being read aloud to” and it lowers rates of depression and suicidal thoughts. 

  • She also has found that regular family meals are more powerful predictors for standardized test scores than time spent in school or spent doing homework. 

  • And youth “…smoking, binge drinking, marijuana usage, violence, school problems, eating disorders, and sexual activity” are less likely in homes with regular family dinners.

  • But, over the past 20 years, the frequency of family meals has declined by 33%

  • In the US, about 20% of meals are consumed in the car.

The Benefits of Reading

  • Oxford University researchers studying all of the extracurricular activities sixteen-year-olds participate in found that the only one that had significant workplace benefits later in life was reading.  

  • “In 2018, the Pew Research Center reported that adults with incomes of less than $30,000 per year are three times as likely as affluent households to be “non-book readers.””

  • In 1980, 60% of teenagers reported that they read a newspaper, magazine, or book on a daily basis for pleasure. By 2016, that number had dropped to 16%.

  • As of 2016, thirteen-year-olds are more likely to read for pleasure than seventeen-year-olds.

  • The number of people who read for pleasure has declined 30% since 2004.

  • Only 43% of adults have read one novel, one short story, one poem, or one play in the past year.

Recommended Mental Training Resources

Essential Books

  • Setting the Bar, by Shane Trotter

  • The Culture Code, by Daniel Coyle

  • Tribe, by Sebastian Junger

  • Why We Drive, by Matthew B. Crawford

  • The Righteous Mind, by Jonathan Haidt

  • The Happiness Hypothesis, by Jonathan Haidt

  • The Coddling of the American Mind, by Jonathan Haidt

  • Natural Born Heroes, by Christopher McDougall

  • Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, by Robert Pirsig

  • Hollowed Out, by Jeremy Adams

  • Antifragile, by Nassim Taleb

  • The Lessons of History, by Will and Ariel Durant

  • The Paleo Manifesto, by John Durant

  • Atomic Habits, by James Clear

  • The Power of Moments, by Chip and Dan Heath

  • Switch, by Chip and Dan Heath

  • The Intentional Father, by Jon Tyson

  • Adam’s Return, by Richard Rohr

  • Limitless, by Jim Kwik

The Fallacy of “Educational Screentime”

Screentime and Children’s Brains

Victoria Prooday’s Top Parenting Misconceptions

The Screentime Limits Steve Jobs and Bill Gates Set

Why Wealthy Parents Pay for Screen Free While the Rest Are Sold More Screen-centered Edu